Today was not my finest day as a mom. I really let down my little guy and felt terrible when I saw the disappointment on his face. I didn’t have his back, and the more I thought about it, the more I realized he really didn’t do it. I should have had his back, and he was so hurt I didn’t believe him.
It all started this morning when we meet Cathy, Kim and the kids at McDonalds play land. The kids were busy playing when Ellaina (my resent tattler) came down to tell me that Braden was showing his bottom (aka butt). Ellaina has a tendency to exaggerate, so I called Braden down from the play land to talk to him. As soon as I saw him, I knew Ellaina was telling the truth. See Braden hasn’t quite mastered pulling his pants up yet. Most of the time, after his first bathroom break, he runs around the house without pants or on completely crooked (if they were loose enough for him to pull up). When he came down the slide, his pants were crooked. We talked about it so he knew it was not appropriate, and we would leave if he did it again.
A little while later, Braden came to get a drink and spilt it all over himself. I had some of Gavin’s too small cloths in my car, so I put him in a dry pair of pants. They were 3T’s, so they were quite snug on him and high on his legs. It didn’t bother him, so he went running up and continued to play. A short time later Ellaina came running down saying Braden peed in the play house. Even worse, he pulled down his pants and peed. I didn’t believe her right away because Braden doesn’t even pee outside. When he was first potty training, I tried to get him to pee near a fence and he cried. I didn’t know what to think though, because he also hasn’t ever mooned anyone and he did that today already.
I called him down and saw that his pants were dry…and on perfectly straight. He said he didn’t do it and I believed him. Like I said his pants were on straight and there was no way he could have done that himself. Than another lady chimed in about his shirt being wet. I explained that he had spilt earlier (hence why his chest is wet too), and that he would not have been able to get his pants back on if he did. Then the lady said my son said he did it too. By now, I was thinking maybe he could have. I had Ellaina show me where the pee was. When I got up there I saw a wet puddle in the middle of the play house. I went down to grab some napkins and Cathy informed me she asked Wolfie and he too said Braden did it. I couldn’t wrap my brain around it. Braden was screaming and everyone was looking at us. I grabbed a couple napkins and went back up to mark where it was for the employee to clean it up. When I came back down, Kim helped me get the kids and the car and told me Braden said it was an accident. I was so confused. However, I wanted to figure it out before I punished him for something he may not have done.
Braden kept saying he didn’t do it and I couldn’t help but believe him. He doesn’t really lie and the few times he had, he folded immediately. He looked so sincere and crushed that I didn’t take his side. I really wanted to know before I sent him to his room for punishment. I spoke with Ellaina more about it. It turned out she didn’t see it, she heard someone say he did and came running down to get him in trouble. With that said, I really started putting things together. The fact that his 4t pants were crooked after pulling down the back, but his 3t pants were on perfectly after pulling them down. Not to mention, I don’t know any toddle boy who would be able to pee in a perfect little puddle. Especially in the middle of a plastic play house floor. There would have been splatter and spray. Not two perfect little puddles together. That got me thinking maybe he did have an accident, like he told Kim, and it ran straight down his leg. That would explain the puddle, since it looked more like a spill. It would also explain why it only took two folded napkins to cover the small amount.
Once we got home and I pulled down his pants to check his underwear. They were completely dry. With that, I knew he didn’t pee up in the playhouse. Unfortunately, his underwear are never totally dry after he pees. Not to mention, he could not pull his pants back up. I walked away to the kitchen to watch what he would do. He tried to pull them up. After a couple tries, he pulled them off and left them on the floor. Mystery sort of solved…at least his part. I knew without a doubt he didn’t do it. I also knew I owed him a big apology for not believing him. I guess with all the commotion, crowd hysteria and screaming Braden. It was easier for me to believe it than to really think it over and weigh the facts. In the end, I had really hurt my little guys feelings. I am just grateful I didn’t loose my cool and spank him. That would have really been a hard thing to apologize for. Braden is very sensitive. When you give him a spanking, it hurts his feelings more than his bottom. I am sure this is not the last time I will have to publically question the truthfulness of my kid(s). Hopefully next time level heads will prevail and I will do my research before taking a side. Hopefully this blog post will help me remember…next time :)